allowing the emotion in

How often have you allowed your emotion to overrule your instincts?  He doesn't call and we immediately, against our instinctive judgment, decide he is obviously smitten and is afraid of being rejected . So , what do we do? We send a text message, and of course when we get no response, we realise he hasn't heard the message beep. So we phone - he will hear the ring tone. He doesn't answer, and although we have already crossed the line, we cannot stop ourselves. We go into emotional disarray and call again, and again... Our gut instinct is to ignore the man, and not give him credit for anything but being able to breath without life support, but no, we can't wait out the game. 
Lets look at the reality. He hasn't called cause he has something better to do, and it does not include you. Reality. No excuses.  But hang on, there could be one other scenario.....he is already involved with someone else, and here again, it is time for a reality check. He is playing with your emotions...he has given you some concrete signs of interest ...this isn't a total fantasy, is it? anyway, if he is involved, then why on earth are you allowing yourself to be second best cause that is all you will ever be. He 'belongs' to someone else, and until he is removed from that situation - totally removed - he is out of bounds. Not worth the angst and your valuable time. 
Ignoring the signals, making excuses for him...sound familiar?